As a woman’s health nurse practitioner, one of the most common questions that I am asked is when young women should first visit a gynecologist.

While the answer to this question is not the same for everyone, there are some guidelines to follow.

The American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology (ACOG) recommends that girls first see an Ob/Gyn between the ages of 13 and 15. An earlier appointment should be made, however, if there has been any sexual activity.

This may seem like a young age to bring your daughter in for a Gyn visit, but these early visits are important for establishing a relationship with a health-care provider, and for your daughter to learn important information about her body. A Gyn visit can bring about anxiety in young girls. It is normal for them to feel embarrassed, nervous, or afraid. I have found that girls do much better with this visit if they are able to meet the provider and establish a relationship before the need to undress or have a pelvic exam.

Most girls will not need a pelvic exam or pap smear during this first visit, unless there are abnormal symptoms present. This is a good time for the patient to become familiar with the healthcare provider, and to begin to establish a trusting relationship in which she feels comfortable discussing personal concerns.

When I see an adolescent patient for an initial visit, I use this time to educate her and to help her feel comfortable. I discuss important ways to keep herself safe and healthy. I review appropriate hygiene, discuss her menstrual cycle and address any concerns that she may have. I also talk with her about sexuality, contraceptives and sexually transmitted infections.

So when should you bring your daughter in for the first time? Generally, my answer is the sooner the better. Make a preventative appointment. Don’t wait until something is wrong. Help her to understand the importance of preventative care, and start this process with a stress free, comfortable visit.